She always turned to her dad.
ARGH LET ME TELL YOU A THING.
I saw this little article about “10 Reasons Why Frozen is the most modern disney movie” or something blahblahblah, and reason number one was that Elsa’s parents were abusive.
noooooooooo. no no no no no.
FROLLO was abusive. MOTHER GOTHEL WAS ABUSIVE.
Elsa’s parents did their darn best to make sure none of their daughters got hurt. Her dad didn’t know how to handle ice powers! He didn’t have ice powers! Nobody else had ice powers! No! All he knew was that Elsa had to learn to control her powers, and he did his darn best to help her. Maybe he didn’t go about it correctly. Maybe he accidentally contributed to her anxiety issues. MAYBE HE MESSED HER UP.
But it wasn’t on purpose.
Look at this man. Look how much he cares for his daughter. He’s not afraid to touch her. He’s not afraid to hold her. He gave her the gloves FOR HER OWN PROTECTION, and Elsa turned them into a prison because she was afraid of herself.
This movie is fascinating, not because it showed abusive parents, but because it showed LOVING, WELL MEANING, ADORABLE parents trying to help their daughter in the best way they could. Even if they did it wrong. Even if they didn’t have all the answers. They TRIED.
And that’s the saddest part. Because sometimes, even when parents try their best, they can still mess their kids up. It’s reality. But I don’t think Elsa ever blamed him for trying.
Elsa’s relationship with her father was one of my favorite aspects of the movie. It’s so rare that we get to see father-daughter interaction like that, where there’s warmth, love, and caring. It’s more common to see relationships like that between Triton and Ariel, where the father is “holding her back from her true love!!” and she’s seen as rebelling. So yes, while Elsa’s father may not have gone about things the best way, he tried. He loved both of his daughters so much, and he did everything he could to keep them safe, and his love for his family was apparent in every moment he was shown on screen.
Hi, Anon. I’m sorry to hear you’re struggling with those issues! I’m not sure how much help I can be, but hopefully something in this post will be beneficial to you.
Let me preface all this so you know where I’m coming from. The only depression I get is from seasonal affective disorder during the winter, which exercise and my UV happy light help to fend off; and even then it’s gotten better in the last year or so, despite the awful winter we’ve had these past few months. So I can’t really speak to dealing with severe depression or clinical depression. I’m also an introvert so being around people can be very exhausting for me; I don’t get lonely since I really enjoy time to myself and it’s how I recharge. If it’s been a few days since I’ve truly socialized with anyone, I’ll seek people out to spend time with them, even if all we’re doing is sitting on the couch and watching TV together. But fortunately I have Alex as a roommate and she’s always good about popping in to check on me every few hours! So I do have that constant companionship and I’m very thankful for it.
All that being said - if you’re struggling with depression and loneliness, I really advise that you find a counselor or therapist. Even if your depression isn’t strong enough to warrant a medical diagnosis, just having an unbiased third-party to talk to can be super helpful. Plus, if you do have severe depression, seeking professional help will be a huge step towards recovery. Here’s a step-by-step breakdown of how to find a therapist.
(Please remember that just “being sad about something” or “having a bad day once in a while” does not mean you have depression. I know Tumblr loves to self-diagnose and blow things out of proportion, but depression is a serious mental condition that many people suffer from; it’s not a label to slap on your Tumblr sidebar.)
So if you’re truly struggling with depression, I’m not sure it’s my place to try to give you advice; the most I could do is throw some articles from WebMD at you. But If you’re simply feeling down, stressed, upset, or just need to get your thoughts and emotions out, here are a few resources and exercises you can try.
- The Thoughts Room: Spill out all your thoughts in text and watch them disappear. I love using this when I’m worrying about something or feel like I’ve got too many thoughts running through my head at once.
- Grounding Techniques: I had an anxiety attack in the middle of class once, and one of my best friends, Jess, walked me through a grounding exercise to do if that ever happens again. Basically it involves focusing on what’s immediately happening around you. Telling yourself things like, “I can hear the air conditioning. My teacher is writing on the dry erase board. The boy next to me is checking his phone. The room temperature is a little chilly.” It can help calm you down and reorient yourself.
- Pleasant Event Scheduling: Planning time to do good things for yourself is so, so important. Build time into your schedule to do things that will make you happy or help you to relax, whether it’s doing yoga, doodling, watching a weekly TV show, organizing your closet - anything goes. What’s important is that you have these pre-planned “good things” you can look forward to if you find yourself struggling through the day.
- MoodGYM: A site dedicated to cognitive behavior therapy through interactive games, assessments, and more. Cognitive behavior therapy is a proven treatment for depression.
- SuperBetter: This is an app created by game designers that focuses on building personal resilience and motivation. You can set your goal (whether it’s physical, social, mental, emotional, etc.) and SuperBetter will help you build the personal skills necessary to achieve it.
- "Just Breathe": It’s an annoying cliche, but it works. Breathing techniques are beneficial for a myriad of reasons, so don’t write them off just because you’ve heard it a million times.
- CalmingManatee: There is something oddly soothing about a manatee reassuring you that everything is gonna be okay.
- Boggle the Owl: The owner of this blog has been on a hiatus recently due to her own struggles with depression, but Boggle is a very comforting owl who just wants good things for you. And he has some excellent advice!
- The Quiet Place: This is similar to The Thoughts Place ( developed by the same people), but the focus is instead on tuning everything out and focusing on silence and relaxation. If you’re feeling stressed or there’s just too much going on for you to focus, this may be very helpful!
- BlahTherapy: If you just need someone to talk to, try this website. Talking to a therapist requires a fee, but you can talk to strangers anonymously at no charge. It’s great for venting or seeking advice from someone who won’t judge you. You can also opt to listen to someone else, if you want to try the other side of it. (Remember, sometimes the best way we can help ourselves is by helping others.)
- Mind Mapping: Whenever I’m feeling completely overwhelmed, I use mind mapping to organize my thoughts. Having everything laid out visually is much easier to deal with than a messy tangle of jumbled thoughts.
Again, I’m not sure if you’ll find any of that useful, but I really hope things get better for you, Anon! Hang in there, and please don’t hesitate to reach out to those around you if you need something. I wish you all the best. <3
I spit all over my screen.
sCREAMING HOLY SHIT I WAS NOT EXPECTING THAT *dont laugh dont laugh dont laugh*
This is the funniest thing I’ve seen in ever.
There’s one layer of twill as my mounting fabric (that has all the boning channels), then the outer layer of bridal satin which is interfaced.
I’m by nooo means in the place to provide solid advice on making a bunny suit, since this was my first time making one and I definitely have a lot to learn about the process! But in general:
- Make a mock-up. Hell, make two. And not just casually sewing the base pattern pieces together. Make a full mock-up that involves all the notions and boning and hemming to make sure your pattern is solid before cutting in to your fashion fabrics.
- Buy extra fabric because you’ll most likely mess up. Better to have more on hand than having to run back to the store.
- Don’t use the cheap plastic boning from JoAnn’s. Get some good steel boning, either spiral steel, spring steel, or flat stays.
- Include bra hooks and eyes in the back of the suit for extra support (so you’re essentially building a strapless bra).
- Don’t make the crotch too narrow. Wait to cut that hem until you can put the suit on fully and measure where it will hit - and leave a little excess on the sides for finishing the hem. Otherwise you may end up exposing a lot more than you’re comfortable with… this was the main reason I had to completely start over on my bunny suit two days before the event. :’D
- If you’re using white or light-colored fabric that can stain (like satin), make sure your work area is clean. You’ll be hella pissed if you do all this work only to get pen or a grease mark on your suit. Trust me.
- Don’t use an invisible zipper, get a heavy-duty plastic or metal one.
- Your suit should be TIGHT. Like you shouldn’t be able to put it on by yourself. Mine ended up being a little too loose; it was tight enough that it stayed on fine and I felt secure in it, but I’ll definitely need to take it in. You should still be able to breathe, but the suit shouldn’t shift around at all.
- Dance tights are your best friend.
- So is exterior mounting tape.
- And sock glue is that friend who you don’t really like to hang out with but you know will always be there for you in a pinch.